Many parents feel overwhelmed when trying to guide their children’s faith. It’s easy to fall into the trap of believing there’s one “right” way to do it – a specific method or resource that will magically work. But the truth is, discipleship isn’t about following a rigid formula. It’s about consistently pointing your children toward Jesus, helping them trust, love, and live like Him. The how matters less than the destination.
Here are eight practical ways to help your family grow in faith, recognizing that what works for one family may not work for another. The key is to find what fits your life and build from there.
1. Church: A Foundation, Not the Whole House
Regular church attendance is a great starting point, but it shouldn’t be the only spiritual input. Children need to see their parents genuinely engaged in their faith community, not just going through the motions. Church should complement, not replace, personal and family discipleship.
2. Prayer: The Heart of Connection
If you could do just one thing, make it prayer. Authentic, vulnerable conversations with God – at bedtime, during meals, or on the go – model a real relationship with Jesus. This isn’t about perfect words; it’s about connection.
3. Devotions: Tailored to Your Family
Family devotions can be powerful, but don’t force a one-size-fits-all approach. Some families thrive with structured resources, while others prefer reading a Bible passage together. Start small – ten minutes a week – and build from there. Don’t be afraid to experiment until you find what works.
4. Books: Stories That Shape Faith
Reading aloud to young children is invaluable, and including faith-based books or Bible storybooks can introduce them to God’s love. For older kids, reading together or discussing individual books can spark meaningful conversations.
5. Everyday Conversations: Weaving Faith into Life
Deuteronomy 6 emphasizes integrating faith into daily life. Look for natural opportunities to talk about Jesus – in the news, at school, or during everyday activities. Ask your child what they’re learning, how they’re growing, or what questions they have.
6. Connecting Faith to Events: Real-World Relevance
Help your children apply their faith to the world around them. Discuss current events, entertainment, or sports through a spiritual lens. Ask questions like, “How would Jesus respond to this situation?” or “What does this story teach us about God’s love?”
7. Activities: Experiential Learning
Think about where your family spends its time – sports fields, classrooms, neighborhoods. How can you weave faith into those activities? Consider hands-on learning experiences – trust falls to illustrate faith, or nature walks to appreciate God’s creation.
8. Serving Others: Living Like Jesus
Discipleship isn’t just about knowing Jesus; it’s about living like Him. Find ways to serve others together – volunteering at a food bank, helping a neighbor, or supporting a missionary. Show your children that faith is an active, outward-focused life.
The Long View: Start small, be consistent, and don’t be afraid to adjust your approach. Effective discipleship is built one small moment at a time. It’s not about perfection; it’s about progress.
Resources: For more guidance, explore resources like Family Discipleship That Works and Faith Foundations.
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Brian Dembowczyk (PhD, Midwestern Baptist Theological Seminary) is associate publisher for Thomas Nelson Bibles and the author of Family Discipleship That Works and Faith Foundations. He previously served as managing editor of The Gospel Project and has pastored in various roles
